Hungary for Turkey

On Thanksgiving I ate turkey. This would be less remarkable if I were in the States, experiencing Thanksgiving with everyone else. But turkey is uncommon in France, which made it remarkable -- and, I'm convinced, not coincidental -- that my office cantine served dinde on Thursday. There were no sweet potatoes, green beans or gelatinous canned cranberry, though. For that I had to wait until dinner that night, when we had friends over for a Franco-American Thanksgiving, featuring poulet rather than turkey. A minor pre-dinner plumbing crisis in the kitchen delayed the meal, and seemed to set off a series of minor catastrophes (undercooked potatoes, dropped plates, insufficiently sweet mulled wine) that is sure to make our first Thanksgiving one to remember, just not in the Norman Rockwell sort of way. The next day we hopped a flight to Budapest for our last EasyJet weekend getaway of the year. (That makes three in the last month, with five more planned for the first half of next year. Seriously, we should become spokespeople.) Now, just two more weeks of lawyering and tutoring separate us from our first trip back home since moving here in January.

Even more than Thanksgiving, the deep connection between food and home was underscored shortly after arriving in Budapest. As we were walking around, getting a lay of the city and looking for a place to have dinner, all of a sudden Ashley yelled. There, down the street, was a Vapiano. Vapiano is a chain of pizza, pasta and salad restaurants at which we had many a meal in DC -- so much so that that's where we're meeting some friends when we return in a few weeks. Ashley didn't scream because it just so happened that she had been wanting a salad (although she had been). It was because she saw a familiar face in a strange place. And familiar it was: the food and the experience, from the menu to the color of the stools to the bowl of gummy bears at the cash register, was as we remembered it in DC. In short, it was proof that it's not the food per se but the familiarity of it that makes for such a powerful connection. Indeed, it'd be tough for Ashley or me to defend on grounds of taste alone our love of gelatinous canned cranberry or spinach dip from my parents' grocery store, respectively.

This has gotten me thinking of our visit to the States not in terms of the places we'll visit but of the the food we'll eat.

- 12-15 December: Vapianoville
- 15-26 December: cream-cheese country (aka cheese-steak land), with a weekend trip to bagelburg
- 26-30 December: spinach-dip falls, with a quick trip to stadium-mustard town
- 30 December to 2 January: city of deep-dish pizza, from which we fly back to cheeseland.

Who's Hungary? Speaking of which, here are photos from cold, snowy, paprika-laden Budapest:

-- MBB

Belly Ache

If France were to have turkeys (which they don’t --- I am still on the ultimate quest for dinde sausage), I do believe it would differ from the American turkey. First and foremost, it would be black and grey. That whole brown, yellow and orange motif is way too much color for the French. Secondly, it would be too slow to be fair game (pun intended). The turkeys would never feel the need to run around, as exercise is unnecessary, and to add to that, it is stressful to rush. So, they would simply sit quietly in the field all day, every once in awhile running into each other to uphold that love off invading personal space. Gobbling? Absolutely not. That would expend too much energy. And, all the meat would be smoked (and I don’t mean for flavor--- instead of Pilgrim pictures on the wrapping there would be Marlboro Men). If you were to score a turkey here in France, chances are the paper booties that come on them would have heels---and be designer. But even if you do find one, I wouldn’t bother eating the turkey as it was probably packaged after the worker decided to stop striking and go back to work. So, chances are that it is spoiled (I mean the turkey, but we can throw the unionized worker in that category as well).

As I frequently like to drown in my turkey-free sorrows here, I read an interesting OpEd this weekend when I was in Prague (okay, I know that is grounds enough to stop complaining). The quote was, “If your belly is full, quit your belly-aching.” It went on to talk about how we don’t stop to think about how good we have it. As I sat there sipping my coffee in a five-star hotel, my instant response was not one I should type on a public space. There may be children reading this.

It is the day to day shee that I so enjoy lamenting over. I am starting out my Thanksgiving day here with an MRI that was three months in the making (in a clinic where they don’t speak English), fetching a pair of insoles that I had to track down after paying gobs of money (since we still don’t have our carte vitales) only to take my notice to the post office and have them tell me that the package will arrive tomorrow at the post office. What?! Or, the fact that I was offered a job three months ago and still can’t get an answer as to if and when I am starting it. But, at least I have tutoring, which feels really nice on the days where my back and leg are aching, and I am on the dirty metro toting around a bag with foam balls, felt letters, and bribery bon-bons. But as I collect soaps and travel shampoos from my hotels for my kiddos at EMDH, or receive emails from my monsters-of-yore, it stops me for just a moment and reminds me that I am so privileged. Um, maybe even spoiled.

As I leave on Friday for Budapest with my soul mate (yes, he has stuck with me through my belly-aching for “two” anniversaries now), it will be a nice reinforcement that I have pages of things to be thankful for. Not to mention the fact that Hungary was once under a communist regime --- now there is a reason to complain! And, as I gear up to head back to the States to see a million people that I love and adore, but will be sad to leave new friends behind, that alone should be enough to fill my belly (which by the way has gotten a lot bigger since gyms are too expensive here!). I have learned that love is the ultimate food, and that you will never be fulfilled if you don’t have it---beaucoup d’elle. But yet I can’t seem to cease my incessant whimpering. Maybe that whimpering is a side effect of a belly that is so full of love that it aches?

Yet selfishly, I wouldn’t mind just one little juicy piece of turkey (the American variety, of course). However, since my belly is already approaching maximum, I will settle for living in Paris with a husband I adore, a family I love dearly, friends who are supportive and caring, a want for nothing, and a sense of purpose. With of course, stuffing on the side.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone, and may your bellies be full today, tomorrow and everyday!

One of the many reasons I am thankful (taken in a Prague tower)

A shot of the glorious city of Prague

The Beginning and the End

Yesterday I walked into the discount bookstore that is located adjacent to my ligne 8 metro exit, and braced myself for what was about to come. As I said out loud, “You can do this,” I did just that. “Avez vous une agenda pour 2011?” The man looked at me and said (as if it was nothing; as if I hadn’t almost had a panic attack): oui. As I looked down at the mediocre selection, I was determined to walk out with what I had so painstakingly asked for. I selected the agenda that had quotes on the front (none of which I understood), hoping that they were at least mildly entertaining (or at the very least, non-offensive). What was more entertaining, however, was the fact that the agenda went from September-September. If you recall from many posts ago, I mentioned the idea of La Rentree (which translates into “the beginning”). For the French the year does not go by the calendar beginning and end, but instead by school year. As a teacher I concur! (Don’t ever repeat that I am agreeing with French mentality). However, as I am eagerly anticipating my New Year’s Eve celebration in Chicago, I am willing to honor January as the beginning and end as well. And with this being the case, on January 6^th Matt and I will have survived (I mean lived) in Paris for a full-year. As Matt has just celebrated a birthday and we have made it through one year of wedded bluster/bliss, time seems to be ticking abnormally fast --- especially for being in a place where clocks and a sense of time (and urgency) don’t seem to exist.

So why the lapse in posts? I would like to attribute it to me starting my new position, but alas, that is still on hold. Instead, it is a combination of things they cause me to run in circles (slowly, however, as my back is still ailing), pull out the remaining hair I have left (no thanks to the calcium in the water), and be in a constant state of mayhem (the only way I like it). Those of you that know me well know that this means that Ash-lay (my Frenchified pronunciation) has finally “settled” in Paris.

There has been so much to share, but alas, as each day brings something new, I will spare you the mundane details and give you the high and low-lights of the last month.

---For Halloween Matt and I traveled to Madrid. Whereas there was an entire city of grandeur to explore, I was more excited about the Dunkin’ Coffee that Matt would fetch me every morning while I read in my fluffy bed (nestled in our small room that had purple mood lighting). The calamari was divine and the people were beyond welcoming. I desperately wanted to eat at TGIFriday’s there, but we settled for guacamole and chips from room service instead (you Americans take your culinary delights for granted).

View from our hotel (ME Madrid) roofdeck

--Ferme Gally (which may sound reminiscent of an animated alien from a Disney movie) is a romantic old farm located about fifteen minutes outside of Paris. On a grey day in October (which would basically describe all the days in October and November thus far), three tres American couples picked apples, perused Christmas decorations, and roamed around a gourmet grocery store full of delectable locally grown produce, cheeses, and wines. Julia Child would have deemed it heaven. Whereas some of the charm was the fact that it had everything (down to Gien china), so it felt like a glorified Target, it also felt so good to just escape the grime and close quarters of city-living. If you get the chance, I highly recommend a Suntan apple. Regardless of the origin of the name, c’est parfait! Amongst other vegetables and fruit you could pick, were Brussels sprouts. I had no idea that those suckers grew on a stalk!

---Mes amis used to just be another French saying that was reserved for mangling during my French lessons (which, yes, I am still taking). However, now I can confidently say that it is applicable to my life here á Paris. I am so fortunate to have a fantastic group of friends here that do everything from “Blondes versus Brunettes” exhibitions (DC gals, of course I thought of you!), to watching NFL on Sundays (I am along more for the cordon bleu and baked goods). It feels good, and it puts things in perspective. Life feels so much better when you have people around that you care about. That being said, I desperately miss my family and friends (and Friendly’s) in the States. December can not come soon enough!

La Parisienne
Matt's Birthday "Bow Ties & Berets"

---Over the river and through the woods (and over an island, and through gorgeous foliage) to Mennecy we go. This month I was able to throw back on my very neglected running shoes (who were dusty from lack of use) to join my AWG hiking pals on not une, but DEUX country hikes. As toussant vacances was the last two weeks in October (two weeks of for All Saints Day), I was able to rearrange my lessons so that two Wednesdays in a row I was strolling through orange, yellow, red and green that painted the skies and lay in heaps on the ground. Whereas Paris seems to go from green to brown (even the leaves like to be standoffish), it was a needed respite, and therapy that even the best doctor can’t offer.

---I have a few friends who are French, and j’adore them. However, the longer we stay here (and the more strikes we encounter), it is hard not to feel a sense of frustration in the overall French modus operandi. As the last month was filled with protests, metro strikes and destructive behavior in hopes of impacting Sarcozy’s ruling on retirement age (which is still a mere 62), it made me for one second see politics from a doite. I have since gone hobbling back over to the gauche, but it forced me to do some internal reflection (that is, when I was afforded silence in between protesters filing down our street chanting indistinguishable words, sticking stickers on anything stable, and leaving a sour taste in my mouth). Beaucoup des benefits, but no gratitude.

Just another Saturday protest outside our window (Boulevard Voltaire is one of the main routes)

---Most importantly, I have received the monumental news that Lands’ End has made it to this side of the ocean. Whereas I have been really struggling to figure out the best way to schlep around all of my tutoring tricks, I can now order monogrammed bags in every size (with a discount for AWG members!). The dark cloud seems to be lifting, and I just might be able to make it here (or at the very least feel confident in knowing that I still have a life-line to embroidered pants).

In exactly one month we will be departing from Charles de Gaulle aeroport to the US of A. Until then, I have 200 words to choose for the Paris Bee, two AWG bulletins to produce, French lessons, English tutoring, teaching, volunteering at EMDH, chronic pains to have diagnosed and cured, travels to Prague and Budapest (my homeland!) and Christmas activities to conquer (did someone say tea at the Ritz?). In stealing from the words of the astute Little Engine That Could, "I think I can."

As I would have initially tried to cleverly ended my soliloquy here, as I was coming back from visiting a friend this afternoon, I received the sad news that John Doran, my teamster bud (and fatherly mechanic) from HACK had passed away. This was a man who knew how to love and to laugh. As I stood on the street corner in the pouring rain wishing I had not just read the horrible news, I could see John in his fishing cap saying, “Tissue? But I don’t even know you.” A man who spent many hours working, but more hours spreading joy and his good humor, his positive outlook was infectious. I look back on those days with such fondness, and it is a reminder that we must make the most of every day. John did, and because of that, he was a light that will never go out. As I frequently find myself frustrated by my situation here in Paris, I need to hold John’s energy and selflessness with me. John, you will be missed, but never forgotten. Thank you for reminding me of what it is important.